I work with neurodivergent adults who feel burned out, overwhelmed, or stuck in recurring patterns.
Most of my clients are tech professionals, engineers, entrepreneurs, creatives, or analytically minded people who are good at understanding complexity but still struggle to change the patterns causing problems in their own lives.
IFS Therapy for Adults with ADHD, Autism, and AUDHD
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Carl R. Rogers
It looks like you’re doing just fine on the outside.
The people I work with are usually doing well externally - productive, competent, often high-achieving - but certain things feel broken. They often have insight into why they do what they do but stay stuck in patterns, struggling to turn that insight into actual behavioral change.
Most are high-masking neurodivergent, and the standard advice hasn’t worked because it’s predicated on how a neurotypical brain operates, not theirs. High output environments reward the masking and rarely make space to understand what's happening underneath. A lot of my clients are men dealing with Nice Guy Syndrome: conflict avoidance, accumulated resentment, covert contracts (giving to get), approval-seeking, fear of rocking the boat or being seen, and difficulty asking directly for what they want.
If any of this lands, you're in the right place.
See How It Works“Just because a computer is not running Windows does not mean it's broken. It's doing things in different ways.”
— Steve Silberman, WIRED interview about NeuroTribes
What brings people here
ADHD & Executive Function Issues
- Procrastination and difficulty starting tasks
- Time blindness and chronic lateness
- Follow-through gaps — knowing what to do but not doing it
- Emotional dysregulation and rejection sensitivity
- Burnout from masking or overcompensating
- Building routines that actually stick
Nice Guy Syndrome / People Pleasing
- Conflict avoidance and passive communication
- Covert contracts ("I'll do this, so they'll do that")
- Approval-seeking and fear of rejection
- Resentment that builds without direct expression
- Difficulty asking for what you need
- Building genuine self-respect and assertiveness
Addiction Issues
- Alcohol and substance use problems
- Compulsive scrolling and social media addiction
- Pornography and sexual compulsivity
- “Workaholism”
- The shame cycle that follows and fuels the next episode
- Wanting to stop while a part of you won't
Autism & AuDHD Patterns
- Sensory overload and environmental sensitivity
- Social communication differences and masking exhaustion
- Autistic burnout from sustained masking or overextension
- Intense interests that were pathologized rather than supported
- Inflexible-flexible thinking and difficulty with unexpected change
- Late-identified autism and self-understanding
Relational Work
- Conflict and withdrawal with a partner
- People-pleasing and weak boundaries
- Repairing after conflict or disconnection
- Honest communication without cruelty
- Hearing impact without collapsing into shame
- Staying connected without losing yourself
Burnout & Stuckness
- Chronic overwhelm that doesn't respond to rest
- Overthinking and analysis paralysis
- Avoidance cycles that are hard to break
- Shame about productivity or performance
- Feeling like something is wrong with you
- Moving from insight to actual, measurable change
“ADHD is a disorder of performance—of doing what you know rather than knowing what to do.”
— Russell A. Barkley
IFS. Neurodivergent-affirming.
I combine IFS with a neurodivergent-affirming approach, executive function support, and relational work.
A neurodivergent-affirming approach helps you work with your system with less shame and more understanding. IFS helps with the inner work: healing shame, reducing self-criticism, and softening protective strategies. Executive function support helps with the outer work: building structure and creating boundaries that hold between sessions.
The goal isn’t to make you look more neurotypical but rather to help you work with your system with less shame and more choice.
IFS & Parts Work
IFS helps you meet these patterns directly rather than just managing them or talking about them. One of the core goals in IFS is unblending: creating enough space from the parts driving those patterns so you can actually choose your response instead of being run by it.
Executive Function Scaffolding
Executive function scaffolding is about stacking tools and shaping your environment so follow-through requires less brute force. We collaborate on external structures that fit your goals, interests, strengths, and natural supports. The aim is to build habits and systems that actually work for you and help you make steady progress toward longer-term goals.
Men's Work & NMMNG Integration
For neurodivergent men, Nice Guy patterns can develop through years of masking, people-pleasing, and suppressing authentic needs in order to maintain acceptance, connection, or competence. NMMNG gives us a practical framework for identifying these patterns. IFS and a neurodiversity-affirming approach help us work with the parts underneath them, including the shame, fear, and protective strategies that behavioral advice alone may not reach.
This work is personal to me.
I'm a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington and a Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado. I've been working with neurodivergent adults since 2020, have ADHD and autistic traits myself, and have completed IFS Level 1 Training through the IFS Institute. I'm one of a small number of therapists certified directly through Dr. Robert Glover's NMMNG training program.
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What people ask before reaching out
Internal Family Systems (IFS) works with the different "parts" of you—the part that shuts down, procrastinates, or people-pleases—with curiosity instead of self-criticism. For ADHD and neurodivergent adults, it addresses the shame underneath the patterns, not just the patterns themselves. Behavioral change without that inner work rarely sticks.
Yes. I provide telehealth therapy to adults who are physically located in Washington or Colorado at the time of the session. Sessions are conducted through secure video.
My practice is private pay and out-of-network with all insurers. Superbills are available upon request for possible out-of-network reimbursement. HSA/FSA cards are accepted in most cases. Reimbursement depends on your plan, so verify benefits directly with your insurer.
Sessions go beyond tips and tools. The work starts from the inside: IFS parts work to address the shame, self-criticism, and protective strategies underneath the patterns. Executive function scaffolding provides the outer layer — structure built around how your nervous system actually activates, not how it should. The goal is change that actually holds, because the inner system is moving with it rather than against it.
No. Many of my clients are self-identified or late-identified. A formal diagnosis can be useful for some purposes, but it's not a prerequisite for therapy. If the patterns resonate — the executive function struggles, the masking, the burnout cycle — that's enough to start.
Therapy goes deeper. Coaching works at the level of strategy and behavior — what you do differently between sessions. Therapy works at the level of the parts underneath: the shame, the protective strategies, the patterns that don't respond to better systems alone.
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